The only saving grace for almost 8 years of married hell to my ex were my 2 children.
They are the most awesome kids on the planet, love my hubby, their stepdaddy, and want nothing to do with their sperm donor, as they call him. My ex left when my son was only about 1 so he only remembers him from infrequent visits, and those dried up long, long ago (he never paid child support either).
Good news is, he left yesterday after a temper tantrum, claiming he was disrespected and will never, ever come back to Cali. Yay !!!!!! My FIL, his Dad, told him to go home and get help...there's something wrong with him lol.
He stresses me out so much, even just knowing he's in the same town I am makes me nervous. I hate that he can do that to me, but his weapon of choice are words, and I have no defenses.
Yay, Nica, a fellow survivor
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